In partnership with Bumble.
10% of proceeds from Man Repeller’s partnership with Bumble will be donated to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which answers calls, chats, and texts from those affected by relationship abuse and supports survivors, their friends, and family members 24/7/365 throughout the U.S. and its territories.
A friend texted me a few weeks ago with a salient theory: “Once we’re allowed to go on dates again, I feel like it’s going to be the greatest time to be single in American history.” His optimism was energizing, as was the suggestion that we might be a part of something historic, something akin to the repeal of prohibition. As the weeks in quarantine add up, my initial survey investigating who’s swiping on dating apps right now already feels like a relic from a bygone era. In need of an update on the state of dating swiping affairs, we’ve partnered with Bumble to take the pulse on how Bumblers are Bumbling a month or so into isolation. Who’s dressing up on top and wearing sweatpants on the bottom? Whose moms keep sneaking up behind them on their Video Chat dates? Who’s doing a design-agency-caliber rebrand of their profile?
You know what’s better than texting your friends for dating advice (sorry, friends)? Surveying the greater MR community on their Bumble shenanigans, and gleaning all sorts of intel in the process (tried-and-true opening lines chief among them). And for the cherry on top: a few MR readers annotated their Bumble profiles, walking us through their thought process like a celebrity home tour.
In the logical chronology of how modern courtship unfolds, read on below for: Pie charts aplenty! Annotated Bumble profiles and first date outfit ideas! Giggle-inducing stories during our global gossip shortage, as my friend Starling called it! Polar opposite predictions for dating’s future! And then, whether you’re looking for connection or banter, pick me up around seven in the comment section?
Table of Contents
- Step I. Refresh Your Profile
- Step II. Craft Your First Move
- Step III. Make Your First Impression
- Step IV. Soul Search
- Step V. Pivot to Video
- Step VI. Pick Your Outfit
- Step VII. Plan Your Date
- Step VIII. Debrief With Friends
- Step VIIII. Look Into Your Crystal Ball
Embrace the self-portraiture boom
— “Updated my pictures, had more time to take bomb selfies.”
— “I added some photos post-quarantine-hair-dye!”
A new chapter for your autobiography
— “I changed the bio to: ‘ out of quarantine snacks plz send help’”
— “New bio, to indicate I am also sealed in my house but looking to speak to other humans who are fun.”
— “My bio: ‘I’m super passionate about socializing which is why I’ve already gotten in contact with your blood relatives and turns out I could potentially be your type.’”
— “My bio is now: ‘Keeping my social distance.’ And I changed a few photos.”
Widening or narrowing the radius
— “I’m with my parents, so I updated my location.”
— “I haven’t updated my profile, but I put my friends who didn’t leave NYC in charge of managing my profile. I retreated back to my hometown in MA… and do not wish to match with anyone here.”
— “Changed my preferences (I’m not anonymous in my hometown… and I’m definitely not out).”
A tip straight from the source: using three or more profile photos increases your chance of matching on Bumble by 31%.
Canned as a sardine
— “The gif with the bear saying hello with his paw.”
— “‘You come here often?’”
— “‘If your name is Junior, and you’re really handsome, c’mon raise your hand.’”
— “I just type out the guy’s name with an exclamation point.”
— “‘I’m gonna be honest, I don’t plan on leaving my house anytime soon, I’m just really bored.’”
— “The recipient’s name and exclamation points !!!!”
— “‘Will exchange home-brewed mead for fly-fishing tips.’”
Flattery (the sincerest form of flattery)
— “‘You look really sturdy.’”
— “I use a really genuine compliment, honestly. I feel like guys don’t get those a lot.”
— “Congratulations on being the most attractive person I’ve matched with.”
Intellectual curiosity with a question mark
— “‘What’s your favorite quarantine snack?””
— “‘If you had a free afternoon (no quarantine), no obligations, no traffic, and $50 in your pocket, what would you do?’”
— “‘If you could road-trip anywhere in the world, where would it be?’”
— “‘Hey what’s your dog’s name!’”
— “‘Do you believe in ghosts?’”
— “‘What’s the most interesting thing you’ve done this week?’”
— “I ask about their go-to album during quarantine.”
— “‘If you were a shoe, what shoe would you be?’”
Bespoke as an Italian suit
— “I typically look for something in the profile of the person that I matched with that is either unique or strikes me as a bit strange and I’ll ask them about it.”
— “I’ll ask a question about one of their pictures. If they’re playing an instrument, I’ll ask what kind of music they like, if it’s an obvious touristy picture (example: them at the Colosseum) I’ll ask when they visited and if they liked it.”
— “Something related to their linked Spotify.”
— “It’s usually based on their profile. I’m a custom gal.”
A tip from Bumble: the bold among us can send an Audio Message to your match instead of text.
I’m funnier than a standup special
— “I’m a laugh and a half.”
— “That I’m fun and can banter.”
I contain multitudes
— “I’m multifaceted with a big personality.”
— “I’m a collage of a human being. Also, that I am a successful woman, and I will not tolerate someone who will talk down upon me.”
I know exactly what I want
— “I like a very specific radio show that I hope some man out there also likes.”
— “I want happiness, no drama, a creative thinker, and someone with a sense of humour.”
They should manage their expectations
— “I’m probably taller than them.”
— “I am (and this should be) uncomplicated.
— “That my love for Jeff Goldblum will never match any kind of love for you.”
— “That I‘m hot, fun, and need to be fed constantly.”
— “I mean business.”
— “I’m looking for something real.”
— “I am cute and like pizza.”
A tip from Bumble: add the Virtual Dating badge to let your match know you’re down to date from home.
Crisis management, considered
— “It’s interesting to see how people react to a crisis. It says a lot about a person.”
— “I need someone I can prepare to be locked away with for months on end with no external contacts.”
— “Petty things don’t matter, just make me laugh.”
— “Being around my parents during this makes me realize what I do and do not want.”
— “It is more important to me that he be actively working on his health and wellness (physical, mental, emotional).”
— “I am definitely more curious now about how people spend their spare time. Something I probably would have never thought too much about before the pandemic. Obviously it’s nice to know hobbies and such, something I would have liked to know before, but what is occurring now helps you understand the various ways people are dealing with this. It’s an odd social experiment and distraction that I am definitely enjoying!”
— “I’ve always thought about who I want to go into an apocalypse situation with.”
— “It all feels a bit pointless right now, so I’m more open.”
— “I feel like I’m not limiting myself as much—usually location (especially in a city without a car) plays a role, but right now it’s not a factor and maybe it never needed to be! I also definitely am paying more attention to the men that are taking this seriously.”
Opportunities for self-reflection, seized
— “It’s given me an interesting break to think about my ‘need’ for another person. When relationship progression is off the table for a while, the stakes are lower and you can just enjoy talking to people.”
— “More interested in companionship.”
— “More long-term vision.”
A tip from Bumble: you can now expand your Distance radius to the entire country.
The smooth move
— “I bring up a heated topic and then I say, ‘Actually it’d be easier to explain over Video Chat.’ Usually, they want to debate so badly that they agree.”
— “I say: ‘It’s a long story! Let’s Video Chat and I’ll tell you.’”
Weave your dulcet tones into conversation
— “We texted for three full weeks. Then I asked, ‘Have you wondered yet if I have a super weird voice that would make all this texting kinda pointless?’ And he said, ‘Yeah, it would be kinda weird? But if you have like a Darth Vader voice, I’m into that.’”
— “Say: ‘Hey, wanna hear my voice?’”
— “Send Audio Notes first.”
A personal touch
— “I sent an iMessage hand-drawn note saying: ‘Do you want to go on a Video Chat date? Check: yes or no.’”
Make the second move
— “I think just ask! Worst that’s going to happen is they will say no!”
— “I say something like, ‘So usually I’d want to go on a date with you, but how about a Video Chat for now?’”
— “It’s video time, baby face.”
— “The Bumble video call feature is great. When I’m tired of texting someone, I ask them if they want to go on a video d8.”
— “Discuss plans for the next few days and then suggest an early evening drink.”
— “He initiated. He was like, ‘[This place] is normally where we would go on a date… Grab some wine and let’s pretend?’”
— “Just ask.”
A tip from Bumble: try Voice Calling within the app if you aren’t ready to exchange numbers or take it to the Video Chat level.
— “I don’t really think virtual dates are real dates but hangs, so I would just wear what I wear when I FaceTime a friend.”
— “I wore a sweatshirt, he did too.”
— “Nice sweats.”
— “Simple T-shirt and leggings—we both know what we’re getting into at this point in quarantine.”
Half-dressed is more
— “Cashmere jumper or silk pajamas so I look luxe, but like I’ve not made too much of an effort.”
— “A black camisole with a cozy sweater and gold hoop earrings. Sweatpants or pajama pants on the bottom. ”
— “A cute top with sweatpants.”
— “There’s a particular importance to what I wear on top, as that’s what will be seen on camera. The bottom is less important as it will be hidden, however there’s always a risk should I be asked to stand (to prove my height or maybe to do a pirouette), so I would refrain from choosing pajamas or any grungy sweatpants.”
— “A cute sweater.”
— “An outfit I wore before one of my virtual dates: a white Casablanca T-shirt and a dark blue V-neck cashmere jumper by Massimo Dutti. I wanted something comfortable and real. Nothing formal but presentable. I wanted to make the other participant feel comfortable and help us get over the usual initial awkwardness.”
— “A bit of makeup.”
The YOLO approach
— “We decided to dress up in black tie—I wore a black velvet dress, diamanté earrings and socks! On another one I’d probably wear a nice top and jeans.”
A tip from MR: never underestimate the power of the flounciest sleeve in your closet.
Drinks or dinner? Beverages or edibles?
— “He made me a virtual oat-milk cappuccino. Going as far as buying oat milk the day before because he knew I was plant-based. Chivalry is not dead, ladies!”
— “It went well! We just chatted with a cup of tea.”
— “We had a beer together while chatting and played some games on Houseparty.”
— “It was fun! We had dinner together and laughed about it being a cheap date.”
— “We just talked and had drinks, it was nice towards the end when we got on some good topics of conversation, it probably wasn’t any more weird than a normal first date.”
— “First, I take an edible… I wait 45 minutes… then I just let it happen.”
A game plan
— “The first was less awkward than I expected, and we talked for four hours straight. We had planned to do a Paint-With-Bob-Ross date, but the conversation ended up being engaging enough that we didn’t get to that part. ”
— “It was the best: We played different types of games like ‘Would You Rather’ or ‘Never Have I Ever.’”
— “It went well! We watched a movie beforehand so we would have something to talk about, but we ended up chatting about books and politics and our lives more.”
— “Just talked, pretty good, a little weird but we both rolled with the punches.”
Digitally native dates
— “I had already met the person for a drink right before this all started, and so I had their number from that. We were joking about when a second date would happen and decided to watch a movie with Netflix Party and FaceTime first. It was really fun!!”
An efficient system
— “They’ve really run the gamut— it’s actually a great way to screen people and not have to waste hours and money out at a bar with someone you’re 0% into.”
— “I did virtual dates before lockdown. They’re usually successful and consist of chatting.”
A tip from Bumble: challenge your match to a game of virtual chess, or compare astrological charts.
— “I made a group chat of all my Bumble matches, and they tried to get me to make a bracket of who was my favorite. We read a bedtime story as a group. Good times.”
— “Swiped right on a guy two years ago, and we were supposed to go on a date. We never did, but we recently matched again, and I asked him how the past two years have been.”
— “The date I went ‘on,’ he got very drunk and accidentally spilt red wine all over his bed and his snoozing dog. My mum also walked in halfway through and ended up introducing herself to my date.”
— “A guy kept asking me to come over and I wouldn’t due to social distancing. He agreed to sell me his Switch so we could meet. Then he made a meme for me.”
— “One match got stick-and-poke tattoos on his toes that said ‘on vacation’ one letter for each toe. ”
— “I matched with my crush from work who I was too shy to talk to, and now we talk everyday. :)“
— “I’ve become really good friends with a guy who I’ve only FaceTimed with. We now have a little book club for the two of us. The relationship started out with some virtual sexting and has somehow morphed into a friendship.”
— “I watched this guy I’ve been talking to take a shower, haha.”
— “Feels like high school again, venting to an almost complete stranger about how much our parents are driving us wild. Hello, 2006.”
A tip from MR: write a review of your date in haiku.
— “Wild and cautious all at the same time.”
— “More conscious about germs!”
— “People (read: me) will be more interested in relationships vs. dating around.”
— “People are going to be really ready for relationships since we’ve been alone for so long.”
— “I think disasters make people want to be connected—thinking about your own mortality will usually push your life forward—so I think people may want to be connecting more overall on an emotional level.”
— “People are gonna be all over each other.”
— “I want to have as much sex as I can for a year then start looking for something real again.”
— “I think there will be a whole lot of new singles that broke up because of either long-distance, quarantine edition, or being too close to each other all the time.”
— “A massive boom—five dates a week with a different person each night. Got so much to catch up on! (Friends first tho obvs.)”
— “Everyone is just going to have a lot of pent-up sexual energy and frustration that I think people are going to make their matches now and then it’ll seamlessly transition to the physical aspect when this is over.”
— “People are going to be so excited to go on real dates! Coffee shops and happy hours will be full, museums will be teeming with people, and I think we’ll all be a little better at communicating.”
— “I think people are really going to value physical intimacy and the human touch. And just being in someone’s presence—it’s shocking how comforting it is.”
— “It’s about to get WILD and I cannot freaking wait. I have a date lined up in person once this is over, so I already feel like I accomplished something cool to look forward to.”
— “We are all going to be horny and even more socially inept than before.”
— “Optimistic—I imagine lots of new singles, and a renewed enthusiasm for bars, dancing, and actually going places.”
— “People will be dating like crazy after—I don’t want to be locked in isolation alone again.”
A tip from Bumble: there are certain times of day when Bumble is booming. Might we suggest setting a calendar reminder and sauntering into the app in the early evening?
Graphics by Lorenza Centi.
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In partnership with The OUTNET.
You’re likely familiar with the concept of FOMO, or “Fear of Missing Out,” and you might even be acquainted with its sister acronym JOMO, or “Joy of Missing Out,” but I’d be willing to bet you haven’t heard of their second-cousin-once-removed acronym JOFTO, or “Joy of Finding The One”–because I literally made it up a couple weeks ago and this is the first time I’m talking about it publicly. But just because it’s a new acronym doesn’t mean it’s a new concept! On the contrary, the joy of finding the one–otherwise known as the undulating ecstasy of finally plugging a hole that has been gaping in your wardrobe for an extended period of time–is an ancient and primal emotion, dating back to when cave-people started shopping for clothes. Probably.
I may be a bit fuzzy on the exact origin timeline, but I’m crystal clear about one thing: The OUTNET is basically a factory for JOFTO. There have been many occasions in which I searched high and low for a particular thing–the perfect blazer for work, the ideal pair of high-waist denim shorts–and finally happened upon it while scrolling through The OUTNET’s hallowed digital coffers. Ergo, to celebrate not only the coining of a new (and soon-to-be-viral, if I have anything to do with it) phrase, but also a reliable wellspring for experiencing it, I recruited two of my Man Repeller teammates to join me in searching for The One on The OUTNET. Below, read about our respective quests.
Harling, Brand Director
A quest for the perfect pair of non-denim pants.
I reached the point of being over wearing jeans on repeat in early January, and yet found myself wearing my fallback pair the very next day. Though I had other pants I could turn to in this time of sartorial turmoil, none seemed quite right. My khakis made all my sweaters look too dad-ish. My leggings didn’t feel crisp enough for most work days. My one pair of corduroys reminded me too much of what I wore to school every day when I was 17 (a lot of corduroys).
I began fantasizing about the perfect pants that would conceivably illuminate an egress out from the winter style rut I was very clearly experiencing. Ideally, they would be equally suitable for a day of work or a Saturday night festivity. They would be polished but still extremely comfortable. They would be punchy, but not at the expense of versatility. I realized as these criteria entered my head that I might be describing something that doesn’t exist, but what can I say? I’m an optimist.
I knew I’d found The Ones when I stumbled across this pair from Marni on The OUTNET and realized they catalogued an additional criterion that hadn’t initially occurred to me: leg openings conducive to winter boots! A seemingly simple characteristic, but surprisingly hard to find. In addition to their superlative leg openings, they also were printed with a pattern that was both work—and fun—appropriate, not to mention punchy but still versatile. Perhaps most importantly of all, despite their put-together appearance, they have a sneaky elastic waistband, which I can confirm is extremely comfortable around the ‘ol digestion storage facility.
The JOY (see what I did there?) of finding them was solidified when I put on the rest of this outfit and then squatted down to lace up my shoes. Have you ever squatted in jeans? A nightmare. Squatting in these Marni pants, however? Dream come true.
Allison, VP of Operations
A quest for the perfect going-out top.
For months, I hunted for the perfect, graceful top that would be suitable for drinks with my girlfriends or a date with my husband, but it proved difficult to find one that didn’t make me look like I was too dressed up, or that I tried too hard. On top of that, I needed this mythical top to be versatile enough to go with any type of pants, as I’ve gone through several pant phases (current phase is high-waisted) but still love and wear them all.
I don’t like the way I look in black, which limits the options even further since there seems to be a high concentration of black going-out tops. I think that’s why this pink one immediately caught my eye. Not only is it the kind of color that makes me feel extra bold, but it’s also a statement in and of itself, thus making the remaining components of the outfits easier to style. No fussing is necessary–I can just put it on and go. I also love that it can be worn tucked in or out of pants.
I styled it here with a high-waisted red pair because I think the two colors look elegant together, and let’s face it, they attract attention (I might like a wee bit of that every now and then). I added a white boot to give the outfit a little retro ’60s vibe as the cherry on top. The overall result made me feel happy and in-charge. I secretly enjoy not looking like everyone else, and this top basically guarantees me that I won’t.
Sabrina, Photographer and Photo Editor
A quest for the perfect work-to-drinks transition dress.
I’ve been looking for a dress that I can wear to work and then out afterward–maybe to dinner with friends, or some other casual weeknight occasion. For me, an ideal work-to-something-else transition dress is comfortable and easy to layer with. I prefer silhouettes with a clean shape, more on the side of structured than not. I love a shorter hemline and dresses that cinch in at the waist.
I don’t wear a lot of patterns or a lot of dresses (my uniform is very jeans-centric), so the trick was finding a dress that fits into the color scheme of my wardrobe while still making me feel like myself. Though this dress falls a bit outside my typical comfort zone, I was drawn to the subtle maroon color. It almost looks brown in certain lighting, which gives it even more versatility. The other interesting thing about it is the fabric–not only does it thoroughly check the “structured” box, but it also has an interesting croc-effect texture.
My first instinct was to style it with black knee-high boots because it’s winter and I don’t like wearing tights. I’m one of those people who actually finds shoes with a heel easier to move around in, and I appreciate how a slight lift can make me feel more confident. If I wore this dress again, I’d probably style it with my favorite pair of chunky vintage boots and a short-sleeved turtleneck layered underneath–the perfect ensemble for migrating from photo shoot to bar to a solo walk home on the Williamsburg bridge.
Do you have any JOFTO tales up your sleeve? Share them in the comments below.
Photos by Mary Kang.
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In partnership with Everlane.
Allow me to reintroduce a great philosophical debate of the 2010s: Are leggings pants?
I’m sorry I brought it up, I am, but I’ve been thinking: If you define pants as “a garment that covers your legs,” there may in fact be no better exemplar than leggings. They are fabric shrink-wrapped to cover you hip to ankle and nothing more. No pockets, no cuffs, even the name implies their essentialism. What could be more like pants by definition?
Well, according to Google, “trousers,” which happens to be the entire definition of pants, which does complicate things, I admit.
Anyway, I never wanted to wade into this debate! But when the Everlane team told the Man Repeller team they were launching their first legging and challenged us to challenge the notion that leggings aren’t pants, we were easily baited. How could we not be? Leandra wore leggings with gold heels and no shirt last month! So we immediately accepted, and to raise the stakes, attempted to style Everlane’s Perform Leggings—out today and available in four colors for $58 dollars—for three scenarios we’d previously deemed activewear-inappropriate.
See how it all went down below.
Leandra Is En Route to a Business Meeting
When do you typically wear leggings?
Mostly on weekends or on Fridays if I don’t have any meetings when I’m coming into the office. Occasionally, I’ll wear them as pants with heels, but mostly they’re my errand runners, exercise companion, or the thing I put on when I don’t want to be dressed.
How did it feel to style them for going to a meeting?
I self-selected this challenge because I’m pretty sure I have sufficiently cracked the code on how to wear leggings formally (with a blouse and heels, under a sheer dress with pumps) and casually (with sneakers for the gym, flat slides or sandals to run errands, with outlier flair pieces when I’m dressing for no occasion/frivolously), but haven’t quite figured out whether I could make them more professional. What was easy is also what was hard, because I wanted to resist referring to a blazer, but found a good balance in adding the sweater underneath instead of going too corporate with a pressed shirt or something. The doily collar adds something softer, which makes it somewhat unexpected and the turtleneck is like armor for me when the weather’s cold to the extent that even though turtlenecks used to make me feel like a very judgmental drama club president, or before that a grade school student with a nose running perpetually, they make me feel very cool these days.
Settling on heel height and shoe shape was a tricky and nuanced balance too—I didn’t want a heel too low and definitely couldn’t wear one too high. I’m finding that like 3.5 inches is the secret sauce heel height, giving your ankle sufficient arch and comfort to walk semi-long distances (water cooler and back, repeat) confidently. I also didn’t want a de facto pump—that seemed too obvious, like 90s power woman-obvious, but the slingback works, mostly because exposing the heel of my foot does something I can’t exactly articulate to deformalize the leggings without actually deformalizing them. In sum: I think I accomplished my goal!
What’s your #1 tip for making leggings work in a non-leggings scenario?
Lay out the things that make for a non-legging scenario and reverse engineer, finding solutions for each of the variables without actually eliminating the leggings.
And most importantly: Who are you in this look?
Me, but wiser, more organized, and with troves of time efficiently laid out to get stuff done. Alternatively, the kind of woman who writes the foreword for a book about female entrepreneurship and teaches a course on Pollyanna at the local liberal arts college.
Mecca Is En Route to Drinks After Errands
When do you typically wear leggings?
I typically wear leggings in the comfort of my own home; dancing in the mirror while I clean or when I’m working out! Leggings for me are activewear, utilized for comfort purposes as well. So the challenge of taking them out into the city was one that I jumped for, because I always love a fashion challenge!
How did it feel to style them for two occasions, errands then drinks?
I knew I immediately had to turn my leggings into hot pants to make them feel like I wasn’t cleaning or working out, and edge them up! For me that was color-blocking with a bright turtleneck and adding some dimension with the navy blazer. From there, I paired them with a sneaker, then put an ankle toe boot in my bag for later. The last touch was the scarf. Nowadays I add one to any outfit for weather comfort, but this Holzwoiler one matched perfectly. After running errands in the sneakers, it’s so easy to change into boots to meet my girlfriends for a cocktail!
What’s your #1 tip for making leggings work in a non-leggings scenario?
A jacket or oversized knit! While I’m happy to drop down and give a Megan-Thee-Stallion twerk in the comfort of my own home, while walking around NYC I prefer a little more coverage. My biggest tip for making leggings look less like leggings is a polished jacket or knit, or dressing them up with a nice shoe or boot!
And most importantly: Who are you in this look?
Have you ever seen that episode of The Cosby Show where Clair Huxtable goes on a crash diet and ends up out-dancing a whole class in that fire color-blocked outfit? Yup, that’s me!
I’m En Route to the MR Office After Yoga
When do you typically wear leggings?
I know I argued that leggings are pants at their most essential (because they are), but I pretty much only wear them in workout scenarios—like going to yoga or on a hike. Which is to say: Not often. If I’m running errands or working from home, I wear jeans, trousers, or track pants (although usually jeans, which I’ve been mocked for).
How did it feel to style them for going to work?
First off, these are good leggings. I think we all expected a simpler cotton legging, but these felt unlike anything I own. The material is super-thin, giving them a more athletic feeling (similar to running tights), but they’re also super-tight and smoothing (similar to yoga pants). I knew right away they’d be easier to style than most modern leggings, because they don’t have any athletic, patchwork detailing, meaning they look more streamlined with non-activewear.
Still, I’m so used to styling pants that hang off my leg rather than cling to them that it took a few false starts to put something together that felt appropriate for work and like something I’d typically wear. My starting points were this grey coat and these sneakers, two things I’ve been wearing non-stop for weeks (and consequently are Everlane). But the middle layers were perplexing. First I tried a sweater, which read a little schlubby; then I tried a blazer, which read a little try-hard; then I tried various turtlenecks and jackets before I landed on this button-down which, when paired with the pants, created a color-blocking effect that made me feel more dressed up than I might otherwise. The white jacket I added last (when I saw the temperature outside). The final move was swapping out my white socks for red ones, which Harling suggested to me via text. Red socks make everything better.
This probably more closely resembles a weekend outfit for most people, but I’d happily wear this to work at Man Repeller (and did). I love that it wouldn’t require a full outfit change after going to a yoga class in the morning, which is one of the biggest deterrents to me actually going.
What’s your #1 tip for making leggings work in a non-leggings scenario?
Pairing them with a stream-lined coat! This is something I explored a bit in a recent story about Larry David’s fashion theory—which is essentially the idea that pairing something nice with something casual creates a memorable kind of tension.
And most importantly: Who are you in this look?
Someone who fits a workout in every day and never forgets a birthday. And maybe my mom in the 80s.
Photos by Shana Trajanoska.
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In partnership with Daily Harvest.
If I had a nickel for every instance in which I’ve uttered the words “I didn’t have time,” I’d have enough nickels to barricade myself in a quiet room with nothing but my menacing to-do list. On a separate but related note, my physical body is (allegedly) 60% water, but I’d wager a guess that my metaphysical mind is 90% thoughts about nourishment–from what I should eat (too many options!) to whether I should order it, pick it up, or attempt to cook it. Do you see the connection here?! No worries either way, because my fingers are itching to type it out: If I spent less time thinking about and subsequently procuring something to eat at least three times a day but occasionally more, I would have more time to do… literally anything and everything else.
Enter Daily Harvest, a weekly or monthly plan that delivers perfectly portioned food directly to your door. Food that is not only delicious but also nutritious (please excuse the corny but factually accurate rhyme), with the goal of allowing busy people to be their most effective selves because the whole “OMG, I’m so hungry what the ham sandwich do I eat and how do I get it A.S.A.P.” thing is circumvented and replaced with healthy options that are only as far away as your freezer.
It takes just a few minutes to prepare food from Daily Harvest, which means you can devote the oodles of leftover minutes you would have spent pondering, prepping, or procuring to do whatever it is you always intend to do if you had more! time! But if you, like me, seem to experience temporary memory loss every time you do come across some extra time, suddenly rendering you incapable of remembering your hypothetical list of “if only” aspirations, I a) sympathize deeply and b) took it upon myself to crowdsource the Man Repeller community for suggestions. Below is a definitive list of the five most-cited things people wish they had more time to do, which you can feel free to bookmark and pull up next time you’re microwaving a Cauliflower Rice + Pesto harvest bowl.
1. Read a Challenging Book
Making (and therefore having) time to read can be a battle in its own right. Making time to read a uniquely challenging book is often a much more demanding endeavor. I’ve been known to fantasize about finding a fairy (godmother?) who would flit over to my apartment in the morning and cook me something tasty and satisfying while I concurrently became one of those annoying, envy-inducing people who commence their days with a few chapters of 19-century literature. Turns out with Daily Harvest I can be my own fairy godmother and whip up an oat bowl with 18 grams of protein that tastes like chocolate chip banana bread so quickly I’ll be inducing envy with my literary progress posthaste.
2. Put Away All the Clothes on The Chair
Almost everyone has some version of The Chair. In my old apartment it was an actual chair and in my current apartment it’s either the foot of my bed or my hamper–either way, the function is the same: a dumping ground for clothes you don’t have the time or energy to fold yet. “Yet” is the operative word, because the whole idea of The Chair is that it’s merely a temporary quick-fix, but I don’t have to tell you how easy it is for a quick-fix to become a medium-length-fix to become a basically-permanent-fix when time is of the essence. If you’re nodding your head with empathy, imagine this: a fragrant coconut cream curry with green chickpeas for Vitamin C and protein, anti-inflammatory turmeric, and immunity-boosting ginger that heats up in five minutes flat, thus prioritizing the question of how to properly fold a sweater over the suddenly irrelevant question of what to nourish yourself with for lunch.
3. Practice Yoga
I’ve gone through periods during which I attempt to do yoga videos on a mat in my living room and the effort lasts for approximately three days until I inevitably quit because–say it with me!–I don’t have time. I somehow do find the time to brainstorm afternoon snack ideas for questionable amounts of time most days, and I’m not shy about trekking a few extra blocks out of my way to purchase my favorite chocolate chip cookie if that’s what the snack-o-meter in my brain happens to land on. Something about this math doesn’t quite add up, but I’d vastly prefer to skip calculations altogether and blend a Tart Cherry + Raspberry smoothie (reminiscent of fresh berry sorbet but with loads more anti-inflammatory, immunity-boosting, digestion-friendly nutrients) in less time than it takes to search the internet for “at-home yoga for lazy people.”
4. Learn a New Language
If I told you I spent nine years of my education learning French and now barely remember how to say bonjour, would you still be friends with me? I’m so ashamed!!!! And routinely amazed that knowledge I spent so long acquiring could slip through the sieve of my mind in what felt like a matter of months. I’m hoping that a few solid fragments are still lurking, to the extent that if I coaxed them forth they would coagulate into some form of remembrance, but in order to coax I need tiiiiiiiiimeeeeeeee to concentrate on doing so. Perhaps if I were to whip up a Daily Harvest Sweet Potato + Wild Rice Hash harvest bowl that tastes like a sneakily healthy breakfast burrito instead of debating whether to roast some tofu for half an hour before ultimately panicking and ordering a pizza, I’d have exactly that.
5. Spending Time With Your Own Self
There are few things that leave me feeling as rejuvenated, as creative, and as peaceful as a bout of intentional alone time, but it’s an easy thing to neglect (even though it often has more payoff than the other agenda items I habitually prioritize over it). Spending time solo can take many forms, from going on a walk sans-headphones to meditating to taking a bath, and I’ve found that if I’m overly stressed or agitated or overwhelmed, the root cause is a suppressed craving to do any of these things, even for just ten minutes. Forty-five minutes would be even better, though, and legitimately possible if instead of running to the grocery store to grab a few ingredients in an effort to sate your umpteenth hunger tickle of the day you could simply walk to your freezer, blend up a bowl of butternut squash soup (full of antioxidants to protect from winter colds!), and spend your spare time one-on-one with your very own self in whatever way you please.
What are some other things you always think about doing if you had more time? Feel free to drop them in the comments below, and click here if you’d like to read more about Daily Harvest–you can receive a discount of $25 off your first box when you use code MANREPELLER.
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In partnership with The Volon.
I always think about this one time, like ten years ago, when I was in a crowded elevator in an apartment building in Soho on what I thought was just an average Thursday night. I was wearing something plain and feeling pretty regular until a bunch of people flooded in, their sequins and rhinestones and reindeer ears completely enveloping the elevator. It was intoxicating! And once we hit the ground floor, just as the party-goers had flooded in, they spilled out, oozing with cheer. They were either going to or coming from a holiday party and all I could think was: When will this be me?
It probably sounds dramatic, but I think what I wanted to know was whether I’d ever be a catalyst for someone else to get in the spirit. For years following that encounter, I covered my body in glitter and velvet and sequins and all the fare you expect of the holiday season in order to actualize this pursuit. Of course, what has almost always happened is this sort of typecasting — by the end of December, I can look at neither a single slab of velvet nor a single sequin and then by January, my style cues are relegated to morose shades of navy and black. This year, I’ve been trying something different, it’s this novel concept called moderation wherein I don’t go all-in with the goal of stretching out the timeframe in which I can be a catalyst for someone else to get into a spirit. Any spirit, really! Just smile. If you want. Starting Jan. 1, here’s how I’ll approach dressing:
If you inherited a ballgown skirt but have found no good reason to wear it:
The former me probably would have added something kind of wacky up top, but current me just wants to wear this skirt with a cardigan and a bag that’s big enough to hold a notebook. My grandmother wore this to my parents’ wedding. It recently occurred to me that it’s short enough to wear with loafers and lately I have been thinking that cardigans and black tie skirts create a great contrast that works neither formally nor casually and therefore perfectly in both settings. I’ve yet to find a jacket solution, but a gigantic scarf might work!
If you refuse to take off your sweatpants:
You know how when stylized athleisure brands were first popping up they all referred to themselves as “yoga to brunch” brands? I’m calling a tartan blazer with velvet lapels as paired with sweatpants and pulled together with the crucial inclusion of a fanny pack that will fit a credit card, your phone, and exactly one lipstick, the equivalent of “brunch to party” clothes.
If you actually have an event that demands cheer, and plan to hit it up after work:
Can you wear feathers under your suit? Or would it get you fired? This jacket has matching pants, and I want to tell you to wear them with the top to work, then pull them off, snap-pants-style, after you leave. This works especially well because without pants on, your legs fail the utility test (no pockets), no to worry, though, because your bag has two.
May I pretty please now invite you to share your holiday cheer uniform? Upload a pic!
Photos by Emma Trim.
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In partnership with David Yurman.
Man Repeller is partnering with jewelry brand David Yurman to explore the supreme romanticism of hands. In addition to being a renowned decorator of this particular appendage, offering up all manner of artfully designed and crafted vehicles for sparkle, David Yurman is also a trained sculptor who not only works with his hands but also dreams with them. To that point, we’re publishing a three-part series spotlighting people who use their hands in creative ways. Part one kicked off with our own Leandra Medine Cohen, who examined the trajectory of her career as a writer through this lens while decked out in some of her favorite David Yurman pieces. Part two featured floral designer and Fox Fodder Farm founder Taylor Patterson, who shared the joys and challenges of making art out of flowers. Next up is Emi Kaneko, a freelance makeup artist. Read her story below.
On the Revelation That Led Her to Becoming a Makeup Artist
I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t fascinated by makeup, but I think the interest largely stemmed from how much I loved painting as a kid. I’ve always been attracted to experimenting with color and texture. I like playing dress-up and creating characters in my head, and makeup can be such a powerful tool for bringing those things to life. When I realized that makeup artistry was an actual profession, and that I could get paid to do it, and travel the world, and work with amazing, talented, creative people, I was like, “This is it.”
On How Her Makeup Aesthetic Has Evolved Since She Started
I grew up in L.A., which is definitely a “more is more” environment when it comes to makeup. Moving to New York and working on fashion shoots shaped my perspective both in terms of toning things down and thinking outside the box. I’d already developed the right skill set, but I saw a big evolution in my taste and aesthetic.
To that point, the longer I do makeup, the less I put on myself. That might sound kind of strange, but I think it comes from a place of being more comfortable with who I am and how I look. When I was younger, I used makeup as a mask to protect myself so I didn’t feel as vulnerable. It was a layer of armor–a bit of oomph that I needed while I was trying to discover myself and figure life out. Now that I’m in my thirties, I’m just like, “I’m good.” I’m content. Obviously I still play with makeup and do a full beat when I feel like it, but on an average day, I’m really happy just being me.
On the Primal Intimacy of Working With Her Hands
Because I work with my hands in such an intentional way, I feel an instant connection to the person whose makeup I’m doing. Touch is a very primal, intimate thing, and I try to use it in a way that helps people feel comfortable with me. I’m pretty gentle, which I think is important, because I don’t want it to feel forced. I’m also naturally an extrovert, which is probably why I never have an issue making small talk and touching a stranger’s face. I try to channel the mentality of a facial or a massage and make it relaxing for them.
On the Most Satisfying Thing About Being a Makeup Artist
The idea of making people feel empowered through makeup is particularly gratifying. It’s amazing how something as simple as a swipe of lipstick can give someone the confidence to do something outside their comfort zone. In a weird way, makeup can give people a voice even if they’re not actually saying anything.
Being surrounded by creativity on a daily basis is also one of my favorite things about my job. Recently, I worked on a show during New York Fashion Week for an up-and-coming brand with super talented, young designers, and the energy backstage is something I’m still carrying with me. I had full creative license with the makeup, which is always fun, but also a lot of pressure with 30 models in a short amount of time. Seeing it all come together was such a distinctive moment of euphoria, especially because the runway show only lasts for two minutes–all that momentum leading up to a single, poetic blink.
The only thing I dislike are the suitcases I use to pack all my makeup in. They’re so heavy! I can’t stand them.
On Her Advice for Aspiring Freelance Makeup Artists
You kind of need to have tunnel vision. Keep picking yourself up and putting one foot in front of the other. Sometimes a job works out and sometimes it doesn’t, but that’s the nature of being a freelancer. That constant feeling of, “Is the job going to confirm? Is it not going to confirm?” never goes away, no matter how good you are or how long you’ve been doing the work. So believe in your talent, don’t take anything personally, and keep moving forward no matter what.
Photos by Sabrina Santiago.
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In partnership with David Yurman.
Man Repeller is partnering with jewelry brand David Yurman to explore the supreme romanticism of–what else?– hands! After all, David Yurman is a renowned decorator of this particular appendage, offering up all manner of artfully designed and crafted vehicles for sparkle. To that point, we’re publishing a three-part series spotlighting people who work with their hands. Part one kicked off with our own Leandra Medine Cohen, who examined the trajectory of her career as a writer through this lens while decked out in some of her favorite David Yurman pieces. Next up is floral designer and Fox Fodder Farm founder Taylor Patterson, who shares the joys and challenges of making art out of flowers. Read her story below.
On Falling Into Floral Design By Chance
I started working with flowers shortly after moving to New York on a whim. I wasn’t really sure what I was going to do with my career, but I was waitressing at a restaurant at the time, and I asked the florist who provided their flowers if I could help her out whenever she needed an extra pair of hands. I ended up shadowing her for a while, which led to me doing my own stuff, and it built from there.
Both my parents were big gardeners, so I grew up with what I thought to be a basic level of plant knowledge, but I quickly learned it was a lot more extensive than that because most people don’t know much (or anything!) about plants. I think that’s part of the reason why arranging flowers came so easily to me. It felt very second nature [Ed note: pun unintended].
On How She’s Learned to Let Flowers Speak (Figuratively) for Themselves
Not only was I generally less confident than I am now when I first started, but I was also extremely focused on being “different.” I was obsessed with pushing boundaries and establishing myself as someone who was making things unlike anything or anyone else. As I’ve become more familiar with the industry, though, I’ve become more aware that nothing is born out of thin air, and everything–no matter how innovative–is connected to a precedent set before it, and that’s been very humbling. Now I’m less fixated on making my mark, so to speak, and more interested in letting the flowers speak for themselves. It’s as simple as recognizing that I work with flowers, flowers are beautiful, and I just want to do what I can to bring that experience to others.
On Stopping to Smell the Roses
My favorite flower design project I’ve ever worked on was a wedding at the St. Regis. We made these table-scapes with crazy arrangements of cherries and different fruits and flowers, and it looked like Marie Antoinette was hosting the party. The point was never to cultivate perfection–just to have fun, which is why the effect was so dynamic. It ties back to what I was saying before–as I’ve gotten older, I’m less interested in perfection and more interested in thinking about the experience that we’re creating for people and the relationship that they’re going to have, not with only the aesthetic we’re cultivating, but also the natural beauty of the flowers themselves. Like, are they going to pay attention? Are they going to literally stop and smell the roses? I always want the answers to those questions to be yes.
On the Biggest Misconception About Floral Design
In my experience, the biggest misconception about the floral design industry is that because we work with nature, we are assumed to be environmentally oriented or concerned about sustainability. And that may be true in a lot of cases, but in general, the kind of floristry that has been celebrated in the past is reliant upon excessive material shipped from all over the world, as well as products that are actually highly chemical. That’s why I made a decision a couple of years ago that my company is no longer going to use this thing called “floral foam.” A lot of people in my industry aren’t ready to take that stand because it means that when a client asks for a certain thing that they’ve seen on Pinterest or whatever, they would have to turn down that business because it’s impossible to make without foam. People rarely consider how wasteful the floral industry is. They’ll ask for a flower wall without thinking about how that flower wall is getting made–with 47 bricks of compressed formaldehyde-treated plastic that are used once and thrown away immediately after. I’m comfortable leaving that money on the table if it means avoiding unnecessary waste.
On What It’s Like to Work With Her Hands Every Day
Using my hands is an incredibly important thing for me in terms of how I relate to and identify with the work that I do. Having that physical connection and relationship is key–it’s also just the way my brain works. I’m the kind of person who learns by doing. I wasn’t a good student because it was all listening and no interactivity, in one ear and out the other. By physically doing something, I can actually internalize it and find meaning in it.
On Advice for Aspiring Florists–Or Any Creative Type, Really
Learn to let go. Accept the reality that you might order thousands of dollars of product for an event and have the perfect vision for how it will look that you workshop for months, and then on the day you’re supposed to pick everything up the shipment gets stuck in Holland and you have to come up with a new idea. Don’t take it too seriously. At the end of the day, it’s not brain surgery, it’s just flowers.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity. Photos by Sabrina Santiago.
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In partnership with Veronica Beard.
You’re probably going to tell me it’s too early to think about this, that we’re still solidly in the throes of cheery, crisp fall weather, that Thanksgiving pie hasn’t even started baking yet, that it’s still FUN to bust out all the sweaters waiting patiently underneath your bed, and you wouldn’t be wrong in any respect, but hear me out: It’s time to start prepping for the inevitable winter style rut.
It’s easy to forget what happens every season. First, there’s a gradual dissolution of enchantment with stiff denim and chunky knits, then premature cravings for summer, followed by a sense of utter bewilderment every time you confront the cold-weather apparel in your closet. It doesn’t have to be like that, though. Just as bears load up on snacks pre-hibernation, we, too, can plan ahead before the first frost with a strategy for rethinking the definition of “winter clothing.”
In partnership with Veronica Beard, I have the pleasure of proposing three unconventional winter hero pieces for your consideration. Scroll down and bundle up!
#1 Shiny White Trousers
Thanks to the boring old rule about not wearing white pants after Labor Day, white doesn’t get as much airtime as mainstays like black, brown, navy, gray, and burgundy during winter. But that’s precisely why white–and particularly a white pair of pants–has the power to fill your chest with the zest of rut-busting style come January. Add a little bit of sheen to the mix and you’ve got yourself a festive staple that can be dressed down (with a cozy striped sweater) or up (with a matching jacket) depending on the scenario at hand.
#2 Elongated Bermuda Shorts
I’m honestly torn about whether to call these elongated Bermuda shorts or short culottes, but I’m going with the former since the idea of winter-appropriate shorts feels particularly exciting to me. I love the idea of wearing them with tall boots (as evidenced here), but I’m not at all opposed to the prospect of black tights and platform brogues as an alternative option. Either way, you’re guaranteed to be transported from the doldrums of denim monotony to a more carefree mental state.
#3 Dickeys Galore
Dickeys are the ultimate winter accessory because they’re a) extremely distinctive and b) they engender a cool layering effect without the subway sweat potential of actually layering a denim jacket under a corduroy blazer, for example. Veronica Beard is my hero for not only making dickeys galore (seriously, so. many. dickeys.), but also for making DICKEY JACKETS with hidden zippers so you can zip in the dickeys for supreme securement. Highly recommend on every level.
What are your favorite unconventional winter “staples”? Please do tell.
In partnership with EQ3.
Moving is a lot like getting a cavity filled in that both experiences beg a pressing question: How is it 2019 and we still don’t have a better way of doing this? From the lease signing that’s (for reasons unknown) 45 minutes away from where you’re actually moving, to the reminder your arms have a combined strength comparable to barely-set jello, to that one box of junk you know will never get unpacked—if it weren’t for the joy of housewarmings, I’d be genuinely surprised if anybody ever moved again.
Housewarmings—those are perfect. (Evidenced by the fact that zero dentistry metaphors come to mind.) These parties exist without the expectations of holiday hosting (a turkey? I just moved!) and the rollercoaster of emotions that seem to come with birthdays. They’re one-night-only celebrations that can transform a blank space into one that’s overflowing with top-shelf quality memories, perfected by the slightly blurred haze that only three cups of spiked mulled cider can accurately cultivate.
That said, every party worth its Polaroids requires work, and housewarmings—held in new spaces, where it’s likely not everybody will know each other—can require more babysitting than your regular in-home shindig. So, below are eight housewarming tips covering everything from food to mood lighting to gentle conversation coercion, sprinkled with some product recommendations from dreamy furniture and home goods store EQ3.
1. Dress Your Table Just as Thoughtfully as You’d Dress Yourself for School Picture Day
There aren’t many things in this life that are more satisfying than getting an outfit Goldilocks-level Just Right—but setting a table with the same thoughtfulness you might devote to positioning your butterfly clips just so circa second grade can feel just as good. Speaking of second grade, napkin layering is a subject I wish I’d studied in school, but no one’s called me out on my self-taught methodology yet: Invest in two sets of napkins in complementary colors, laying one flat as a placemat and folding the other under your utensils. Add plates, bowls, and vases (as long as they’re politely below eye-level) in a matching color to your napkins, then take a step back, snack on a rogue baby carrot, and allow at least 25 minutes to admire your work before any guests arrive.
2. Forget That Ceiling Lights Even Exist. What ARE Ceiling Lights, Even? (<– Good Job)
When it comes to parties—dinner parties, dance parties, Tupperware parties—good lighting is the key to success. Pretend your ceiling bulbs are all blown for the night and light your whole home with soft and glowy lamps and candles (kept somewhere they’re not likely to be knocked by a rouge elbow, please) sort of like you’re a mystical fairy and your home is a woodland grotto. Nobody wants to feel like they’re drinking or dancing inside a mall changing room when they’re at a housewarming, so keep the lights down lowwwww.
3. Sprinkle Snacks Around Your Space to Inspire Maximum Moth Mingling (Don’t Worry, I’ll Explain)
Like moths to a cracker-shaped flame (see what I did there?), people will always hang out near the snacks. With that in mind, seize the opportunity to treat your guests like moths–i.e. the more designated food areas, the better. While your first instinct may be to create a snack HQ in one spot, leaving plates and trays of bite-sized snacks in a few different areas on living room consoles or side tables, like this solid teak stool, will help spread out the crowd. Anything can be a snack table if you believe!!!
4. Do Everything You Can to Make It Look Like You Didn’t Actually Just Move In
Okay, sure, you may have literally just gotten your keys—but you don’t want it to look and feel that way. Aurea Sanabria Molaei, Founder & Creative Director at Flower Bodega recommends taking the time to steam new curtains and let your rugs properly unroll before have anyone over–essentially the home decor version of “I woke up like this.” No need to strive for unrealistic levels of perfection, though–leaving books and throws where you last put them down instead of tidying everything away will also make your place look comfortably lived in. Bless your *slightly curated* mess.
5. Rearrange Your Furniture to Trick People Into Having Intimate Convos
Similar to the pain of being seated at the end of a long table in a noisy restaurant, being stuck on the outskirts of a riveting party conversation because you’re at one end of a long couch sucks. If you have a sectional, like the Lane sectional, angle your sections inward or bring other pieces of furniture, like this Chiara lounge chair, in close, so a few small conversations can happen at once and everyone can have a comfy seat to sink into while they gossip/flirt/vent/practice for their upcoming stand-up gig. This setup is basically a future group chat waiting to happen.
6. Set Up a Bar, So People Can Serve Their Own Drinks All Night Long
Getting a drink for your guests is a great thing to do when they first arrive, but after that the real MVHP (Most Valuable Houseparty Player) move is to give them the power to serve themselves. Even if this just means leaving glasses and a few bottles of wine on a bar cart or side table, you will get maximum appreciation from your guests. They’ll be cha-cha-ing martini shakers and grating lemon zest faster than you can say pass me that paper towel roll you guys are animals in a good way.
7. Stick to Light-Colored Drinks If You Don’t Exactly Trust the Dexterity of Most of Your Friends (I’m Looking at You, Samantha)
Everyone either has—or is—the animated friend who can’t possibly tell a story without a flick of the wrist and wave of the hand. These friends, and those who constantly have a cracked phone screen, are who you should be keeping in mind when stocking your bar. Prosecco, orange wine, and gin or vodka cocktails are excellent carpet- and white-couch-friendly options. If you’re set on serving reds and dark liquor, it pays to have an extra bottle of club soda stashed away in case of (carpet) emergency.
8. Tell Everyone in Your Favorite Group Chat to Arrive Half an Hour Early
First impressions matter: at work, when dating, and—most! importantly!—at parties. Task a trusted core group with coming by early, so your home is adequately warmed before the majority of your guests arrive, like the human equivalent of a chocolate chip cookie aroma wafting from the kitchen. Bonus tip: If you’re stressed about people staying well past their welcome at the end of the night, include both a start and finish time on your invitation. I can’t promise you people will adhere to it, but at least you will know you tried your best. (But also, best of luck getting anybody to leave your perfectly planned and executed party hehehe).
Photos by Louisa Wells.
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In partnership with Hill City.
I have four brothers, but it is only my older brother, Haim, who cares about style as much as I do. Until we were out of my parents’ house, I interpreted his interest as a sort of compulsion. When we were very young, he insisted on having, basically, every pair of mesh basketball shorts on the market. When we got a little older, it was all about whiskered skinny jeans. By the time we were in high school, the currency became bright button-down shirts. Between these peaks were minor blunders-as-valleys—the spring he spent wearing JNCOs, the summer he could not see past paisley and through the vicissitudes of his changing style, there was always an emphasis on sneakers. In our adult lives, Haim is no longer just Haim—he’s Single Uncle Handsome Haim the Influencer and he’s really developed unwavering care for and a sense of his own casual personal style.
But I’d be hard-pressed to say that we share style sensibilities—that if I were a guy and he was a girl we’d dress alike. (When asked, Haim said my style “could get weird sometimes.”) I’m more invested in using my style to challenge myself, to crack a code, to make something difficult—like, say, existence—feel easier. Meanwhile, Haim is more of a figure-it-out-then-recreate-it-ad-infinitum kind of guy. These differences are probably why I was so hellbent on casting him as my counterpart for this story, a classic tale of one piece, two ways—pitched for Hill City, the new cool activewear brand who make technical mens clothes that technically look great on women. That’s not their tagline, but maybe it should be. Idk.
Anyway, I instructed us to take the same hero piece (the Insulated Wool Shirt Jacket in charcoal heather, the Thermal Light Shirt Jacket in stone and the Heavyweight Fleece Hoodie in light grey heather and style it in our own ways to compare the outfits.
Not to toot my own ass, but I think the idea was bang on. When asked how the clothes integrated with his wardrobe, Single Uncle responded: “They are literally the definition of my style. Dress for comfort above all else while attempting to look cool in the process.” Obviously his definition of cool is subjective, but we can talk about that later.
Now, because I’m me, I obviously also psychoanalyzed the Freud out of us, so, you know, have fun reading on!
Look No. 1 featuring Hill City’s Insulated Wool Shirt in Charcoal Heather
The styling process: Whereas I’d prefer to define my personal style as a deli sandwich bar, Haim agrees without my needing to speak for him that his style is definitely more “casual and sporty,” adding, “I’ve always preferred comfort—I’m a sneakers-over-shoes guy.” These differing philosophies are reflected in the more formal approach I took to pairing the shirt with a knit turtleneck, gold chain belt, wool trousers and the pop-o-purple sandals. His point of view? “Nothing beats the combination of a hoodie under some sort of jacket.”
Psychoanalysis: I’m flexible, he’s rigid. Where I prefer to demonstrate unconventional use cases as they relate to my clothes, testing how far I can take the wears out of their comfort zone, Haim is a bit more literal, preferring to keep them squarely within the parameters of the designer’s intentions.
Look No. 2 featuring Hill City’s Thermal Light Shirt Jacket in Stone
The styling process: Haim said he’d have chosen this jacket in black because he gravitates toward darker colors but I basically forced us to go with the stone. You know what he said in response? That this was his favorite look from the whole shoot because of the jacket. I did this insane thing wherein I turned a dress into a top (Indeed, that gold dress with jewel-encrusted boobs is actually a top) and folded it into gold brocade shorts, slapped on a pair of socks and clogs then completed this disco-chilada (like an enchilada, but shinier) with the jacket. Where would we wear these looks? Ironically, the same place. We both answered, “Out to get a meal.” Novel, huh?
Psychoanalysis: He’s an introvert, I’m an extrovert. He prefers that other people set up proofs of concept, I like creating the proofs of concept. Why? How? Well! As you can see, he’s two for two with hoodies under jackets whereas I am two for none with any traceable pattern and that, my friends, is by design.
Look No. 3 featuring Hill City’s Heavyweight Fleece Hoodie in Light Grey Heather
The styling process: Haim picked this piece and tbh, I never would have. There was a merino half-zip that had my g-dang name on it, which I’m still dreaming about to varying degrees of strong REM sleep but I am !up! for a challenge, so a challenge I accepted. His thoughts? “I’d wear this out to dinner, to meet friends for a drink, to meet a date, you name it!” He went on to express that most of his wardrobe is hoodies because they’re “functional and versatile.” Then, because I needed a styling pro tip, he told me a good way to dress them up is by adding an oversize knee-length coat and a beanie. That did not sound like a good solution to me, so after toiling with wide-leg pants and trouser jeans and mini skirts and shorts, I landed upon a pair of white jeans, an ivory blazer and velvet mary janes. Now, lo and behold: my unexpected favorite look.
Psychoanalysis: I am less receptive to meeting people in the middle when I feel strongly one way or another (e.g. sweatshirts are not for me) but incidentally it seems that I, too, can surprise myself by letting someone else take the wheel. As for Haim — a rose is a rose and was always a rose: another day, another hoodie.
In broader conclusion, I’d like to ask ~you~ who wore Hill City best in each of the three instances? Did we succeed in visually expressing the multifarious nature of the garments? Are you inspired? Will you try this with a sibling, or partner, or co-worker on your own? And per question no.1, the winner gets to keep one of my daughters, so be honest, be critical and don’t forget, he’s single.
Photos by Franey Miller.
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